Boards, Bridges, & Bucks

Today I had the pleasure of attending the Lunches with Leaders event for July put on by the Young Professionals of Albuquerque (YPA).  This lunch was held at Chama River Brewing Company on I-25.

This months “Leaders” were Executive Director, Steve Johnson, and Board Chair, John Nichols, from New Day Youth & Family Services, a non-profit helping homeless & troubled youth in Albuquerque.

If I had to use 2 words to describe the stories of these two men it would be:

Refreshingly honest.

What was most refreshing to me about Steve was that he was very humble about his rise to the top and his position at New Day.  He didn’t really care to have the fancy title of Executive Director.  In fact, I got the idea that it embarrassed him a little bit probably because it sounds like some big hotshot job title, reserved for someone who had lots of ambition and drive, someone who clawed their way to the top.  But this couldn’t be further from the truth for Steve.  He admitted right off the bat that he is not an ambitious person at all.  He confessed that he didn’t really pursue any of the high level jobs that he’s had, they just came knocking on his door.

Steve admitted that he never really had any grandiose vision for his life or how successful he wanted to be.  He described being more of a wanderer, wanting a job to feel like fun rather than work (don’t we all?).  He said he just sort of fell into his career path because it was aligned with his core values.  He admitted that on his job interview at All Faiths Receiving Home, he was blatantly honest.  He told them that he had 3 priorities in his life:  God, his family, & his job.  In that order, and that his job was never going to be more important to him than the other two.  They apparently appreciated his blunt honesty & they hired him.  He worked there for 22 years before moving on to his current position at New Day.  Steve concluded by stating that you must follow your heart, have integrity in what you do & say, be kind, & try to never burn bridges.

Next up was Board Chair, John Nichols, and he was just as refreshing & honest in his stories of experiences.  He started out by admitting that he was disappointed with many of the boards he had joined in the past where he experienced “the resume phenomenon”, where many people just join a board to perk up their resume but don’t want to actually get their hands dirty.  Luckily for New Day, John was different. He was determined to make changes when he was asked to head the Board at New Day.  Shortly after reaching out to his fellow Board members to ask them to get involved with the kids at New Day, 9 of the 12 Board members quit.  It was a blessing in disguise which allowed him to build a new Board from scratch.

Today, New Day has a Board of 6 highly motivated & involved members.  John takes pride in the fact that they actually get to pick & choose who they’d like to have on their Board.  Unlike a majority of Boards out there, they actually turn down many requests to join their board if they don’t think it’s a good match for their needs.

John also talked about “being the change”.  Yep, it reminded me of that Gandhi quote “Be the change that you wish to see in the world” (or something to that tune).  John said instead of finding excuses or complaining about a Board being dysfunctional, to get involved and make the needed changes to help it be a success.  He encouraged us to find a Board or an organization that we are passionate about and to get involved.  His enthusiasm was really amazing!

In his conclusion, John talked about money.  Something he probably knows well after working at Morgan Stanley Smith Barney for 19 years.  He said buying “stuff”, fancy cars, houses, clothes, gadgets, is just self-fulfilling & sort-of empty.   He said money never feels better to spend than when you can spend it to help someone else (I know there is a similar quote out there somewhere but I can’t think of it). And I completely agree.  Giving is such an addicting feeling.  It almost begins to feel selfish because it feels so good to put a smile on someones face, especially someone who really needs it.

John actually got choked up and fought back tears when he spoke about his experiences with the kids at New Day.  He said nothing makes him happier than being able to spend his money on taking the New Day kids on outings to Flamenco dance shows, Isotopes games, movies, or new experiences for them.

It was very inspiring seeing these two so passionate about their cause.  Their cause being “the lost” children of Albuquerque.  They may be lost but certainly not forgotten in the eyes & hearts of Steve & John at New Day.  These guys were very real, very honest, very passionate about what they do, but in a real & very relatable way.

I was moved & inspired by their commitment to our community and to our youth.  Lucky for me, the Junior League has selected New Day as one of its main monetary & volunteer focuses for the next few years, so I will get the chance to experience the power of these leaders & of New Day first hand.

I can’t wait.


Al Capone meets Emeril Lagasse

Going to the private home of someone you’ve never met or heard of before.  Eating at a table full of strangers in an intimate living room crammed full of people.  This was what we decided to do for our 4th Wedding Anniversary.

My co-worker had described going to an “underground party” for Valentines Day with his wife.  He said that it was some secret speakeasy dinner club that friends of his had invited them to.  The dinner was held in an obscure building in the industrial part of town.  A classy decorated space, food to die for, and free flowing wine was all I needed to hear before I thought of doing the same thing to surprise my husband for our Anniversary.

I found Speakeasy Culinary Club by goggling it.  They said they were booked for their March  dinner but that they’d put me on the email list for future dinners.  Then a few days before their March dinner, they emailed me & said they had a cancellation.  I quickly jumped on the opening and said we’d be there.  She gave me the location of the dinner, a private home address, and a password to get in.

The night arrived and I kept it a secret all the way up until we were in the car and I was directing my husband where to drive.  I said, “So let me warn you, we are going to an event that is an anonymous underground party at someones house”.  He said “Someone’s house?  Who’s house?”, and that’s when I confessed “I have absolutely no idea.  It’s something a co-worker told me about, it’s supposed to be an amazing culinary experience, but we’re going to some random private residence, of whom I have absolutely no idea”.  I could see the panic on his face.  He laughed just to humor me but I could tell it was an unbelieving laugh, a searching for more information laugh.

Nervous, we both arrived at the dinner, we had to park a little ways away due to the street layout and we could see fancy, dressed up people all headed in the same direction.  We eyed each other up, not knowing what we were really getting ourselves into.   We were greeted at the door by a nice young lady who asked for our names and the password.  It felt kinda neat like we were in the movies or something.

We entered the front door and found the first free seats at a table by ourselves on the far wall of the room.  We felt awkward.  Everyone seemed just as awkward as we were though.   We got up and indulged in the cheeses & breads.  Then  the last couples arrived and filled our table.  They were a few older couples .  One a teacher at the Albuquerque Academy and her husband, and another a retired medical doctor and his wife.  Little did we know that by the end of the night we’d shut down the place with our new friends and prove to have had the most fun amongst all of the tables of strangers.   Go us.

The 5 course meal was an experience.  Everything was exquisite.  Prepared with perfection, presented with perfection.  It was like we were on an episode of Top Chef.  The flavors complimented each other and the next.  They even paired each course with an appropriate wine. The good company at our table was the icing on the cake.   It was truly a culinary experience to remember and we’d do it again in a heartbeat.  Perhaps for a special occasion next year.

Speakeasy Culinary Club Albuquerque, NM

Speakeasy Culinary Club Dinner Albuquerque, NM

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